Most rapists, between 65-85%, depending on who you ask, are known in some way to the victim. [1] X Trustworthy Source Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Largest anti-sexual assault organization in the US providing support and advocacy for survivors Go to source They may be an acquaintance, friend, intimate partner, spouse, or family member. You’re far more likely to be raped by people you know than by someone you don’t know. Women are also rapists. This is very important to understand. Women can and do rape men, boys, women or girls. If you’ve been a victim, you should not feel like you have to stay silent because what happened to you wasn’t really rape. Making assumptions about race doesn’t tell you anything. Demographic statistics concerning rape vary in different areas of the world, but fearing particular groups is generally misleading. Contrary to popular belief, for example, in the US, a majority of sex offenders are actually white, although many people tend to be more fearful of minorities. When victims are polled, in the US, most rapists are described as being white. [2] X Research source
A good person will be understanding about your wanting to be safe. Simply take the drink and talk to them but don’t drink it or thank them for the drink and say something like, “A friend of mine got roofied last year and now I’m just extra cautious. ” This doesn’t even have to be true, since people will not usually argue with you on personal experience.
Going together can help you defend each other against theft, kidnapping, drunk driving, and other forms of physical harm that can result when you’re drunk.
Of course, if you’re still a minor, you should consult with CPS or the relevant agency where you live if you really believe you are under threat. You should not stay in a home that is not safe. Loving your family is not a good enough reason to put yourself at risk. If you are an adult and feel at risk from your spouse or other family member, you may want to contact a friend or local women’s shelter or similar that can take you and your children until the situation is resolved and another solution can be found.
If you are a minor, contact CPS (Child Protective Services), a teacher at your school, a doctor, or other trusted adult. They will help analyze your situation and get you the help you need. If you are an adult in or at risk of an abusive relationship, get help by contacting a local organization or contact a National Domestic Abuse Hotline, for example 1-800-799-7233. You can also contact friends and family members. It’s hard to ask for help, but you will be surprised to find that most people will enthusiastically want to get into a better situation.
The good news is that, as late as 2001, only 11% of would-be rapists used a weapon during the attempted rape. [6] X Trustworthy Source Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Largest anti-sexual assault organization in the US providing support and advocacy for survivors Go to source That means 9 out of 10 rapists had no more natural defense than you likely do. Carrying out a rape with a weapon means a lot more prison time. If the rapist is carrying a weapon, follow your instincts and take cues from the rapist. If you survive the sexual assault, you’ve done the right thing.
For context, try pinching yourself in either of these places. It hurts, doesn’t it? And you’re probably not even pinching as hard as you could.
A square hit in the groin area often incapacitates the attacker. If they are vulnerable after the groin attack, try punching them at the front of the throat (think Adam’s Apple, women are sensitive here too). This is also extremely painful, and should render the attacker useless for enough time for you to get to safety. [8] X Expert Source Joseph BautistaSelf Defense Specialist, Martial Arts Instructor, & 1st Aid/CPR Instructor Expert Interview. 30 April 2020.
A person’s eyes are another good target. [9] X Expert Source Joseph BautistaSelf Defense Specialist, Martial Arts Instructor, & 1st Aid/CPR Instructor Expert Interview. 30 April 2020.
Of course, before accusing someone of raping you in this way, you should look really hard at your own choices. Don’t use a serious matter as a cop-out for decision you know you made just because you regret it.
Even for older teacher-student relationships, it is important to understand that a professor can abuse their position of authority, using it to intimidate a student into sex.
